Life is too short not to be happy!….and of course…how come it takes ten matches to light a campfire and only one to start a forest fire….

Never take life seriously remember in the end nobody gets out alive

Don’t part with your illusions. When they are gone you may still exist, but you have ceased to live. 
Mark Twain

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. 
Herm Albright

Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier. 
Colin Powell

A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject. 
Sir Winston Churchill 

All great things are simple, and many can be expressed in single words: freedom, justice, honor, duty, mercy, hope. 
Sir Winston Churchill 

Stupid is forever, ignorance can be fixed. 
Don Wood 

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power. 
Abraham Lincoln 

Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself. 
Lois McMaster Bujold

“It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees!” 
-Emiliano Zapata 

And on the eighth day God said, “Okay, Murphy, you’re in charge!”  ~Author Unknown
When somebody tells you nothing is impossible, ask him to dribble a football.  ~Author Unknown

Every survival kit should include a sense of humor.  ~Author Unknown

Nothing is more curious than the almost savage hostility that humor excites in those who lack it.  ~George Saintsbury

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CBC Anti Bullying Program

One of the big news items right now is the CBC Anti Bullying. I have seen and heard a number of comments that just smack of ignorance. And I use that term  both literally and  figuratively !

These comments that  some people out there ( I know this is hard to believe)  that it is a big kerfuffle about nothing. Well I hate to say this but ” here’s your sign ” . Personally I think some people should have it tattooed right up there on there forehead in fluorescent color – STUPID ! So the rest of society knows to avoid them at all costs and for God’s sake keep your children away from them! It makes me shudder to know that these people in all likelihood have gone on to have children of their own.

I have no idea how anyone in their mind can rationalize that there shouldn’t be anti-bullying laws or that bullying is not a serious societal epidemic.  We see and hear the results every week on the news for those that do not come into contact with it in their “world” . From suicides to where the victim of bullying has been verbally if not also physically beaten down so many times that they figure what’s the point of living if this is life. To the walking wounded who carry scars , some for the rest of their lives on their self esteem and their world view. For a very small proportion of those that are bullied they in turn feel the need to be empowered and find those weaker then themselves to perpetuate the vicious circle i.e. younger kids , handicapped usually mentally and animals. For those that don’t get that – it creates monsters that in turn victimize.

We have also seen the the polar opposite result with bullying where the victim and I will keep this simple for those that don’t seem to be able to understand how complex this situation is. In short they go get a gun go back to school and shoot those that were victimizing them thereby ending the bullying. I am not saying that every school shooting is based on this but a good proportion of them are. Listen to the details when they come out regarding the crime. Or of course the case of Reena Virk in 1997. Where she was first swarmed and beaten by eight teenagers and finally murdered by two of those eight.

We send our children to school to gain an education and become pro-social members of our society. Yet how many instead of learning are spending their time on the way to school in a constant state of anxiety of ” what’s going to happen today”. How many spend those hours that we entrust the school to educate them trying to avoid being the victim of the bullies. And if you think that there are not a lot of bullies out there GUESS AGAIN…and don’t think of it in short term, be real people think in the long term. You think these bullies get out of school and become an adult and dummy up. Sorry to say nope they in turn take and do the same thing in the adult world. Where there are laws to protect the workers. Its called harassment. You can lose your job for bullying someone at work. Though just like in back in school most people will not come forward as they do not want to make a TARGET of themselves to the bully.

This is a very diverse and complex problem that needs to have harsher penalties in the formative years. And yes lets be honest more PARENTAL input on creating pro-social members of society.  I have had people tell me its ” no big deal, we all have to take our knocks in life “. “Really” I always reply, ” WHY?”  I have yet at the age of 48 ever heard a reasonable explanation as to why we should not address and stop bullying, In fact most times when I ask why to those very people that say it is not a problem they just give me a dropped mouth dazed look and shut up.  And for those that think they do know and give the pat answer that it builds character. See that wall over there go hit your head against ten times. Why you ask because it builds character! . Bullying does not build character in fact it does the complete opposite. It makes the victim feel worthless and their self esteem drops to a complete sense of no self worth.

I have had a victim of bullying from peers tell me that ” they must be right. How can they be wrong when there are so many if not saying it then agreeing with it. That is like saying I’m right and the rest of the world is wrong.” That had to be one of the saddest moments of my life when you hear a boy thinking it has to be him logic would dictate that how can he believe what they are saying is wrong when he stands alone.  Due to youth their world view and scope is so small so they can’t see the bigger picture. Even trying to assure this young man that , that is not the adult world. In fact I am distorting the truth as bullying and nasty people are in the adult world. We just have ways to stop it. Laws that protect the victims and consequences to those that do it. We have laws in adult world. Why is it then that we do not protect children from other children.

Okay personally I think those that think that bullying is not a big thing have NEVER been bullied. The term bullying does not mean just physically it is the verbal abuse that leaves far deeper and longer lasting effects to the victims. It is so rampant in our society. Who has not heard the expression there is nothing cruel-er then a child. So that tells me that logic would dictate that in fact you either stood by and assisted those bullies or YOU were the bully. And to those that did bully that were merely misguided and did not realize the damage that was done. DO the right thing the honourable thing and go find your victims and apologize for the damage you did.

Parents need to get off their asses and start being parents. Stop buying your kids all the latest games and using them as babysitters. Engage with your child. If you have a child that is experiencing bullying please if you do one thing ensure to what level this has affected your child. Suicidal thoughts are very commonplace for victims of bullying. Heck why don’t we call a spade a spade its not bullying its ABUSE!

Lets see stronger consequences for bullying not only for children but in the adult world also. Make your schools accountable. As far as I am concerned a teacher that has not only not reported abuse happening to a student but actively monitored should be FIRED! A principal of a school that does not do his job of stopping it same thing, FIRED!. School boards that say that they have a ) tolerance of bullying is crap and when they are caught no enforcing it those members of the school board should be removed from their position. Right up the line to the Minister of Education. See where I am going here. It’s called accountability. Until we make people accountable for their actions we will continue to have the same problems. Our society has become to liberal where the victims have less rights then the aggressors. Take it one step further it is no different in our legal system the criminals have more rights then the victims. And hence people why our society is going the way its going.

If you do one thing right in life ensure your sit with your children and watch the CBC anti-bullying program. Engage with them if they have seen this at their school or sports team etc., let them see the damage that bullying does and if they are victims themselves let them see that they in fact are no alone , not by a long shot. And if you are the unfortunate parent of a bully, then they can see what their handiwork creates. Although my personal thoughts on that is if you have a child that is bullying you as the parent need to do a serious self reality check. You created this child in more ways then one!

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A place to share ones views of our world and have a few laughs…..

Although I love to laugh and generally am pretty laid back I do have some serious views on a lot of topics . So be forewarned , some blogs will be whimsical others more of a ” why can’t people see this ” kind of remarks….in other words a “rational rant”.

I love the comedian Bill Ingram I think his name is … you know the guy that say’s ” here’s your sign “…A couple of years ago I up and sold my house and the kids and I moved way up north and I bought 160 acres and built a house on this farm. Since I was medically retired after 20 years of law enforcement I decided I needed to have a place where I could live without seriously OCD neighbors…(No offence to people with OCD unless of course you go to your neighbors and whippersnip the inside of their fence or remind them every Friday they should cut their lawn again….personally I think once every two weeks should be more then sufficient unless you have serious rainfall.).

On a farm of course your neighbors are a half mile in both all directions ( okay approximately , depending on where your farmer neighbor built their houses)….hehehe…I love it… not to say I don’t have great neighbors I am truly blessed with where I have moved with my immediate neighbors. Now the nearest town…well let me tell you I have learned that small towns breed backbiting, in fighting and politics that absolutely gobsmack me.  Lets just say that I have retreated to my farm where the animals don’t gossip and try and start any trouble.

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